Love for Life Podcast

#75: How to Not Murder Your Partner During the Holidays: Christmas Survival Guide for Couples

Season 75 Episode 2

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In this episode of Love for Life, Nichole and Ben dive into the brutal reality of why the "most wonderful time of the year" often becomes the most relationship-damaging time instead. With Google searches for relationship counselling spiking 40% every January, the hosts get refreshingly honest about how the holidays don't create relationship problems, they mercilessly expose them.

The duo breaks down why Christmas becomes a pressure cooker for couples, from the invisible mental load that falls disproportionately on one partner to the impossible juggling act of family obligations. They explore the gift expectation trap that leaves couples feeling resentful, the exhaustion factor that kills patience and empathy, and the toxic pressure to perform happiness when you're barely holding it together. Nichole and Ben share their own hard-learned lessons about dividing Christmas labour, pre-negotiating expectations, and why they have a strict "no big conversations between December 15th and January 2nd" rule.

This episode is essential listening for anyone who dreads the holiday season with their partner, couples struggling with unequal Christmas responsibilities, or anyone who needs permission to have a mediocre Christmas without the Instagram-worthy perfection. The hosts offer practical survival strategies including how to create escape routes from family gatherings, why lowering the bar might save your sanity, and the red flags that signal your relationship issues run deeper than seasonal stress. If you've ever fantasised about smothering your partner with a throw pillow by Boxing Day, this episode might just save your relationship.

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to hello@house-of-farrow.com
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow

Connect with Nichole & Ben:
Send in your questions or show suggestions to hello@house-of-farrow.com
Coaching, updates & all the good stuff → http://house-of-farrow.com
Say hi on Instagram or tiktok → @house-of-farrow @nichole.farrow
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