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#71 The sleep divorce (and why it saved our marriage)

The Farrows Season 2 Episode 71

Talk to Nichole and Ben.

In this episode, Ben and Nichole explore the surprisingly serious world of "sleep divorce" after being forced into separate bedrooms due to Ben's relentless snoring. What starts as a light-hearted discussion about their sleeping arrangements quickly turns into a deep dive into the shocking health consequences of sleep deprivation.

The couple discovers that one night of poor sleep causes a 70% drop in immune system killer cells that fight cancer and infections, while men who regularly get only 4-5 hours of sleep have testosterone levels equivalent to someone 10 years older. Nichole shares eye opening research from a top ranked TED Talk by Matt Walker on why sleep is a "non negotiable biological necessity." They discuss everything from the World Health Organisation classifying night shift work as a probable cause of cancer, to practical solutions for couples struggling with incompatible sleep needs.

The episode tackles the harsh reality that neither of them knows a single person who sleeps well, exploring how stress, technology, children, and modern life have created a sleep crisis that's damaging relationships and health. With Ben facing potential sleep apnoea testing and Nichole finally getting eight hours thanks to their bedroom separation, they question whether this temporary arrangement might become permanent.

Resources: Matt Walker TED Talk "Sleep is Your Superpower" 


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