Love for Life Podcast
The podcast for modern couples who want real connection that lasts.
Hosted by relationship and family coach Nichole Farrow and her husband Ben, this show is for couples trying to stay close while raising kids, building careers, and handling the stress of everyday life. Each week, they unpack the real issues behind modern relationships—intimacy, emotional connection, mental load, conflict, communication, and the quiet resentments no one talks about.
With a mix of expert insight and raw honesty, Nichole and Ben give you practical tools to strengthen your relationship, raise emotionally secure kids, and create a life you both actually want. Because working on your relationship isn’t just for when things go wrong—it’s a lifestyle choice that impacts everything. Research shows couples who invest in their connection are 6x more successful and live 4 years longer.
If you’re ready to break generational cycles, ditch the surface-level advice, and do the real work of love—this is your podcast.
Love for Life Podcast
#40: You’re Not Just Tired—You’re Carrying Everything: The Mental Load in Marriage
You love each other. You share a life, maybe a mortgage, probably kids… but lately it feels like your relationship has turned into a never-ending to-do list.
In this episode, Nichole and Ben are talking about the invisible weight so many long-term partners carry—the mental load. From meal planning to dentist appointments to remembering every single birthday card, one partner often becomes the default “manager” of the household. And that imbalance doesn’t just cause exhaustion—it kills intimacy and breeds quiet resentment.
Research shows that mothers take on over 70% of the mental load, even in homes where both parents work full time. That’s not just unfair—it’s unsustainable.
Nichole breaks down what the mental load actually is, how it slowly shifts your relationship dynamic, and what couples can do to rebalance the emotional labour and reconnect as equals—not co-workers.
If you’ve ever thought, “We’re fine… but I’m exhausted”—this episode is for you.
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